Putting on a Brave Face
June 19th, 2009
To tie the knot or not to get hitched ? That is the question. It never had been the question. It had been ‘When to marry?’ not ‘why to marry’. For ages adult females were expected and required themselves to ascertain a mate young, wed and set up home with babies and a dog, and devote their lives to arranging a good household. Perhaps because ladies have been freed from what were once their traditional functions, that a wedding ceremony is no longer as important and without doubt not the only road to take up. In Actually some people- both male and women- categorically hate the idea of marriage, and can’t envisage gazing into a partner’s face and promising without compromise to spend the rest of their lives with them until death do they part. In many ways it’s very sad, because weddings can be such joyful occassions especially when they feature a fine-looking wedding dress and sky lanterns. But, ill-fated marriages can be crushing, financially and emotionally wasteful, and the most isolating things of all. Though being in a poor relationship is also incredibly isolating, somehow with the marriage stamp, it’s worse still . Friends and family expect more of a couple when they are officially married and have purportedly spent so much money on their wedding day. They are expected to be happy or to at least try their hardest to be so. As a result of this detected outside insistence, many men and women feel they have to put on a front and blot out their real thoughts. The reason why there were once a greater number marriages or why marriages lasted a few generations ago is because couples had no choice but to keep ploughing on with their relationship. This is good in some respects, but in others, it is very destructive. Yes there were a greater number of matrimonies, but there were also many more desperately pitiful ones.